Let me be real with you, girl. I’ve asked myself so many times, how can I be the best girlfriend he’s ever had?
Not in a desperate, “pick me” way—but in a way that makes our relationship thrive.
So, I went all in. I watched videos, read books, and dug deep into what really matters in a relationship.
Then, I put those lessons into action.
Trust me, being his best girlfriend will elevate the joy and happiness in the relationship and increase the bond that you both share.
Although, relationships aren’t perfect. But these little steps?
They work. I’ve tried every single one of these, and while it wasn’t always easy, they made my relationship so much stronger.
Here’s what I learned, girl to girl:
How To Be The Best Girlfriend He Can Ever Have
1. Be Yourself: Authenticity is key.
One thing I’ll tell you is that don’t waste your energy trying to be someone you’re not. I learned this the hard way.
Don’t try to paint a picture of who you are not. By being real, he can see your uniqueness and what he needs to love more in you
Letting your guard down and embracing your quirks, will make him fall for the real you —which feels so much more than pretending.
2. Be An Active Listener
The truth is, men also desire that their women give them a listening ear.
They want someone who can inquire about how their day went, the people they meet, and the activities they engage in.
So put your phone down, lock your eyes, and really listen.
Doing this will make him feel heard and respected.
Additionally, it will increase the bond that you both share and you’ll begin to notice things you hadn’t noticed about him before.
3. Show Appreciation To Him
It could be as little as a heartfelt thank-you or just a “you’re amazing,” showing gratitude can make his day.
You can start thanking him for stuff like making me coffee or fixing my laptop, and it made both of us happier.
Don’t wait until he does the major things for you rather appreciate him even on the little days, send him appreciation emails, and remember to celebrate him even when he does simile little things
4. Support His Dreams And Be His Cheerleader.
When a man is in love with you, he won’t gatekeep his aspirations and goals from you.
So when he tells you about his goals and ambition don’t just be a spectator. Be a part of it.
This isn’t to say that you have a major role to play, however, let him see that you are interested in him achieving his dreams and aspirations.
When he tells you about his crazy dreams don’t laugh. Instead, help him brainstorm ideas and you’ll be surprised at his excitement.
5. Be Patient and Understanding
We all have bad days.
When he’s snappy or moody, learn to take a deep breath and ask, don’t just lash out at him immediately or try to annoy his nerves.
This isn’t a cliche, it’s a fact, see things from his perspective, put yourself in his shoes, and understand that he’s human too anyways
6. Surprise Him Periodically
Men love gifts too.
It doesn’t have to be extravagant, it could be as little as his favorite snack, a handwritten note, or a small gift that can brighten his day and show you’re thinking of him.
Trust me, he’ll definitely blush if he sees this.
7. Communicate Openly and Honestly
I understand that a lot of ladies are good with non-verbal communication. But trust me, you’ll be doing the relationship no good if you constantly engage in that, moreover, it will constantly stress your man.
So, avoid bottling up emotions. Be transparent about your thoughts and feelings—it creates a healthy space for mutual understanding.
8. Respect His Space:
Let your man see that you acknowledge that he needs some space for himself.
So don’t bump into him when he has an urgent engagement to prepare for or call bomb him when he needs time to himself.
Allow him moments to recharge or pursue his hobbies. Respecting his need for personal space strengthens your relationship in the long run.
9. Be Adventurous And Try New Things Together.
If you’re a lazy girlfriend like I used to be then you must understand that to gain a level of love from your boyfriend especially if he’s an extroverted person then you need to step out of your comfort zone and explore new experiences as a couple.
It could be as little as traveling, cooking a new dish, or learning something together, it keeps things exciting.
Plan surprise dates, send unexpected sweet messages, or try fun activities together. Spontaneity keeps the relationship lively and fun.
10. Be Supportive During Tough Times:
When he’s going through a hard time, offer emotional and practical support. Just being there can make all the difference.
Tell him words that will encourage him and don’t desert him.
Listening is about more than just hearing words. Tune in to his emotions and show empathy.
11. Be Physically Affectionate:
Another way to be the best girlfriend is to engage in small gestures like holding hands, hugs, or a playful nudge can convey love and comfort in ways words sometimes can’t.
Hold his hands and tell him beautiful things that will make his heart melty
12. Celebrate His Achievements:
No matter how big or small his achievements are, cheer him on because you’re his first cheerleader
It shows you’re proud of him and invested in his happiness.
13. Don’t Play Games:
Honesty and clarity are better than mind games or unnecessary drama.
If there’s anything bothering you then make it clear to him, don’t pretend or play games. Trust is built when both partners are upfront and sincere. Don’t overthink or constantly look for faults.
Building trust means giving him the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise.
14. Be Positive and Optimistic:
Your energy can set the tone for the relationship.
What tone do you bring forth when you both are together are you always happy
A positive outlook can uplift both of you, even on challenging days. So be positive towards your boyfriend, and intentionally carry the aura of positivity personally such that it is contagious to him as well.
15. Learn to Compromise:
Relationships aren’t about winning arguments.
Even when you both aren’t on the same page, don’t try to overshadow by wanting to win the argument.
Remember it’s two of you against the world and not the two against each other.
Meet halfway on disagreements to show mutual respect and care for each other’s needs.
Wrapping up
Wrapping up, I’ll say that human needs are insatiable, this means that you might not fully satisfy your man as his girlfriend.
However, these few tips will give you a special place in his heart.
Additionally, it will help you create a strong, loving, and supportive relationship.
It’s not about doing everything perfectly but about consistently showing care, respect, and love.
Love and Light.
