There are a lot of red flags not to ignore when dating someone new.
Every relationship comes with a euphoria of joy and happiness.
Everything seems to be going so well that you can’t imagine your partner exhibiting some not-so-good character that may be harmful to you or the relationship at large.
Nevertheless, there are visible red flags that shouldn’t be ignored when dating someone, irrespective of how much you love or adore them.
This is because accepting and looking away from the negative indicators may leave you in shackles.
This article will highlight red flags that shouldn’t be ignored in every new relationship.
And if you’ve already found yourself in a relationship that makes you a shadow of yourself, then this article is also best for you.
What Are Red Flags?
Red flags are usually symbols to warn or command you to stop because of the danger ahead.
Red flags in relationships are things that are not right about your partner, which could endanger your physical, emotional, or mental well-being.
When you see these signs in a person, that simply means that the person probably cannot have or maintain a healthy romantic relationship with the opposite sex.
They are potential signposts of a toxic relationship, and once you notice any of them, you should never sweep them under the rug.
Below are 10 Red Flags Not To Ignore When Dating Someone New
10 Red Flags Not To Ignore When Dating Someone New
1. Love Bombing
Love bombing usually happens when the person you’re dating excessively showers you with romance, gifts, affection, and attention, even if they just met you.
Most of the time, partners who show signs of love bombing manipulate and make you want to stay in that relationship, no matter the level of negativity they portray.
They may begin to send flowers, gifts, money, or offer to pay for vacations. This isn’t bad in itself, but you should ask yourself why your new partner is doing all this.
The most obvious sign of love bombing is when your partner ignores your emotional needs. Instead, they love bomb you how they feel is best for them.
This is a sign of danger; you should run.
2. Stories Of Crazy Ex’s
Talking negatively about their ex and painting them badly on the first date is a huge red flag, and you need to know that you aren’t meant to be with them.
I was once in the talking stage with a guy who narrated the negativity of all his exes to me within a week of our meeting.
I knew immediately that it was a huge red flag for me.
Although not all people will remain friends with their ex, nevertheless, you shouldn’t spill the negative side of your ex to your new partner.
It’s a sign that you disrespect your ex.
The reason they do this is to act like the victim just so you can feel for them. This is sort of a psychological trap to get you.
3. Controlling Behavior And Jealousy
Getting into a new relationship can be so alluring that you may take every opinion your new partner tells you.
But in between, you should know when they are trying to force you to act upon every decision they intend for you.
This is a great sign of controlling behavior and a huge red flag that you should run from.
Partners like this couple have their controlling behavior with jealousy and trust me, this is narcissistic behavior, so you shouldn’t remain there; otherwise, it’ll become toxic.
This may occur in instances like wanting to know the exact thing you’re doing at every moment or demanding an explanation for every action you take.
They may also isolate you from your family and friends because they feel they have total control over you. This is a result of insecurity from their path, which may be harmful to your mental and emotional health.
4. Inconsistent Communication
Inconsistent communication is one of the red flags not to ignore when dating someone new.
They are always very busy and unavailable to talk or communicate.
The fact is that constant communication and the expression of emotion are vital to keeping a relationship going.
But if your new lover always seeks an excuse not to communicate with you or is inconsistent with it, then it may be that they’re not really interested in you.
If they genuinely love you, they’ll make time to communicate with you irrespective of their busy schedule.
Another red flag is when they are inconsistent with their communication.
Today, they are in your DM, flooding you with messages, and suddenly, they go off for days without reaching out to you.
And when they do, it looks like they weren’t unavailable all these while.
This is a huge red flag you should never overlook.
5. It’s Complicated From The Beginning
The relationship itself may be complicated, especially if there is a gap in communication or understanding.
But a new relationship shouldn’t experience complications from the start. This might just be a red flag you need to see.
Sometimes, complications may be caused by realities in your or your partner’s life. They may have a not-so-good past, a child from the ex, or something else that doesn’t sound nice.
Nevertheless, you should be able to make independent decisions and not be confused about what to do about the whole situation.
If you find yourself in a condition like this, it is best to walk away.
6. Constant Mood Swing
Being with someone who has constant mood swings and has no control over how they feel and reacts may be the worst nightmare you’ll have to go through.
You need to stay clear of someone who has extreme mood swings because they will make a mess of your emotions.
This may make you deal with a lot of emotional instability, which will put your mental health in danger.
They are happy and smiling with you this minute, and the next minute, they just want to be all alone.
As much as mood swings are typical in humans, they shouldn’t be regular and constant because it’s a great sign of psychological imbalance.
If he or she gets constantly angry at the beginning of the relationship, you should be ready to share in their anger issues someday because they may spill it all on you.
7. Not Generous And Inability To Compromise
Generosity takes various forms in a new relationship, sometimes, it is most likely to be monetary.
Various forms of generosity are time, resources, affection, and gifts.
Stinginess is not a good quality that partners should have when dealing with each other.
While generosity shouldn’t be expected by everyone, your new partner should be someone who can always be generous to you with everything within their reach in as much as it makes you happy.
Another red flag is the inability to comprise.
When one is unable to comprise then it might be pretty difficult to be generous because sometimes generosity means that you compromise on the things that you find comfortable for yourself
If you notice that your new partner doesn’t want to go out of his or her way to ensure the relationship is in good condition, accept it as an indicator of a red flag.
8. Treats Other Poorly
No matter the level of love and affection your partner shows you, if they treat other people with little or no respect, you should be ready to be treated like that someday.
A good partner will treat people respectfully and honorably, irrespective of their status quo.
So, how does your partner treat his domestic workers or people around him?
If your partner always acts rudely or unconsidered about the needs of people close to them, then be ready to receive your share someday.
9. Chronic Infidelity
No level of mutual love or affection should make you consider an infidel as a partner.
This is because you have the free will and freedom to change the hands of the clock while in a relationship.
One way to do this is to walk out of a cheating relationship.
The truth is that sometimes, you cannot change your partner’s character, no matter your level of endurance or tolerance.
It’s simply in them.
If you’ve once been in a relationship with a cheat, then you won’t do yourself more harm by wanting to stay with a partner who shows infidelity.
Infidelity comes with a lot of vices like lying and covering up for wrong.
You don’t want to engage yourself with someone who is like this.
10. Treating Themselves Poorly
Some partners don’t just treat people around them poorly, but they also treat themselves poorly.
They always blame people for every adverse event around them, thereby refusing to take responsibility for their actions.
If you are with a partner like this, you should know that this is a red flag and danger is ahead.
When your partner is self-destructive, there’s no way they will take care of you.
They should be able to take care of themselves and their belongings and rise to responsibility for their life.
Doing this will make them treat you with love and respect because loving others starts from loving yourself and taking responsibility for your actions.
Wrap Up
If you ignore red flags when dating someone new, be ready to keep up with them forever.
Sometimes, red flags are so glaring in a relationship.
But somehow, we find ourselves lingering back and not walking away because of the love, affection, commitment, or resources that have gone into that relationship.
No relationship is meant to make you a shadow of yourself, and your partner is meant to make you better and not bitter.
But, if you intentionally ignore the red flag, then you’re doing yourself more harm.
Reflect on these red flags and see the one that resonates with your new partner.
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